Prepare Yourself For Emotional Mastery!

Who ADEPT Psychology Serves

Imagine you’ve been working hard for years to establish yourself in business, so hard that it’s made you ill. You’ve fallen farther and farther behind where you want to be. You’re no longer certain about who you are, what to offer, or what you’re capable of. You’re depressed and worried, feeling sick of your own life.

You’ve spent thousands of dollars on programs and coaching, yet you still haven’t made much headway launching your own product or course. You don’t seem to be able to get out of your own way. You’re dwelling more than ever on what you “should do” and what others think. Maybe the next program will fix that!

You have no idea which way to turn next. You feel lost. Or more accurately, like you’ve lost yourself. Maybe you’ve lost your mind. Your inner demons have taken control.

With the proper guidance, you make a couple of internal changes. Soon, you find yourself pursuing your newfound dreams, succeeding where you never have before. Your inner demons have been tamed. They bark from time to time, but you control them now.

Past clients don’t have to imagine that. They’ve lived it and continue to live it. Starting successful new businesses and careers. Finding their life paths. Moving from barely making ends meet to hiring entire teams of support people.

Moving from hating their lives to doing what they love most. In a few months. Even when they weren’t sure what that was before. That’s what ADEPT Psychology has done for others. That’s what it can do for you.

What Makes ADEPT Psychology Special?

In the past, those wanting to make shifts like these had two choices. Most sensitive people who’d had difficult childhoods entered traditional therapy. Most others, especially those with entrepreneurial backgrounds, hired mindset coaches.

ADEPT Psychology isn’t either one.

It’s based on a single realization – we get stuck in life because of how we’ve handled past emotional experiences, many of which we’ve largely forgotten. Those past experiences leave clues, and reading them correctly, followed by a few simple actions, releases people from their mental prisons.

That’s not what I was taught, and probably not what you were taught, either. How I learned it is a really long, twisted story for another time.

(I’ll give you the short version here. I started with one problem and realized I couldn’t solve it until I’d solved another problem contained inside it. The second problem had a third contained inside it, and the third had a fourth. I kind of forgot about the first few problems until I woke up one day realizing that because I’d finally solved the seventh or eighth problem, I’d just solved the entire equation.)

There are five different types of problems ADEPT Psychology resolves quickly. Each operates a little differently. Most people suffer from most or all of them, at least from time to time.

• Self-sabotage (self-doubt, self-limiting beliefs, & self-defeating behavior).

• Poorly regulated emotions (frustration, rage, etc.).

• Chronic negative emotions (anxiety, depression, guilt, hostility, etc.).

• Trauma (whether major or minor).

• “Spiritual” problems (lack of direction, meaning, or purpose).

Why ADEPT Psychology Isn’t Therapy

I’ve spent over 15 years studying in three different grad schools. I was trained and licensed as a clinical psychologist, and trained and licensed as a professional counselor before that. What ADEPT Psychology does isn’t therapy.

It doesn’t take a therapist to help with self-sabotage, poor frustration regulation, or spiritual problems. Frankly, most therapists don’t know how to begin solving those conditions. That isn’t what therapy was designed to do, so therapists aren’t trained to do it. They’re trained to help people cope with stuff that’s bigger than they are, not outgrow their problems.

I define trauma as any experience intense enough that you can’t fully process it when it happens. Because it’s not processed, it lingers. While it’s lingering it affects your thinking, emotions, and behavior.

Given that definition, we’ve all suffered some sort of trauma. Because ADEPT Psychology focuses on emotions, it erases trauma while it’s working on your bigger goals – creating your life, living it to the fullest, and making the difference you were meant to make.

You could waste tens of thousands of dollars with a therapist uncovering why you have problems and learning coping skills to avoid them, but you’re still likely to find yourself battling self-doubt or perfectionism. (Forget discovering your life’s meaning in a therapist’s office. That won’t happen.)

Here’s my first promise to you: If I ever determine that you need the added protections a strict therapist-client relationship would provide, then we won’t work together. I’ll tell you exactly what you need and where to look for it. Then I’ll do whatever I can to make sure you stay off this site.

Why ADEPT Psychology Isn’t Mindset Coaching

Mindset coaching starts with solid premises. Mindset coaches teach that if you change what you think, you’ll change your results. While that much is true, their methods don’t work, at least when they’re needed most. Here are two examples:

One typical mindset trick is reminding yourself to think a “good” thought whenever you catch yourself thinking an “bad” one. The problem is, that strategy quits working whenever you’re under stress. As the pressure rises and your need for clear thinking increases, you’re increasingly flooded with unwanted thoughts.

If you’ve experienced that, you probably used the method the way you were instructed. That’s just how people operate. It’s been studied. Most mindset coaches don’t realize that. You probably followed their well-meaning (but bad) advice really well.

A few sophisticated mindset coaches know that people have many different thoughts during the day, but only a limited number of emotions. Since each emotion can control thousands of thoughts, maybe changing emotions can change thinking. Again, that’s solid reasoning.

Unfortunately, crowding out an undesired emotion by focusing on one you’d rather have doesn’t do what it’s supposed to do, either. Sure enough, you’re no longer aware of the “bad” emotion, but that doesn’t mean it’s gone. More importantly, it doesn’t reduce the “bad” emotion’s control over your thoughts and behavior.

Actually, since it’s just as active as it ever was, but now you’re not even aware it’s there, it’s able to cause even more damage.

Enter ADEPT Psychology

I’ve been studying and integrating the scientific literature on emotions and personal transformation since the mid 1980s. Continuously testing out new ideas with clients. The process works well now, and every client’s feedback improves it.

It didn’t always work so well. At first there were lots of dead ends. Every hard-won insight led to a deeper problem. The theories that were already out there didn’t help much. None discussed what my clients were going through, day after day. A new framework had to be built and tested, one step at a time.

My job was finding new ideas and trying stuff out. Something that succeeded wildly with one person often failed miserably with the next one. A few times, only the stubborn unwillingness to give up carried the day. Several times, I doubted whether I’d ever solve enough of the problem to consistently help people get what they wanted most.

Over the years, the results got better and better. The dead ends started giving a different message. (Here’s a big takeaway…)

Almost everything we think we know about emotions is wrong.

And here’s the biggest reason why:

(drumroll…….):

There Are At Least Six Distinct Types of Emotions!

People like to make black and white statements about emotions that turn out to be dead wrong. They may be true sometimes, but only about one emotion (like sadness), or one type of emotion (like Bypassed Emotions), or even one emotion of a particular type in a specific situation.

The six types each have their own origin story and fill their own roles. Of those six types, one type is always helpful. The other five aren’t. They aren’t always bad, but they’re usually unhelpful. That’s why I listed 5 types of problems earlier. In each, one of the five “not so good” types masquerades as the “good” type.

Solving the five problems always requires letting go of old emotions. There are several methods out there claiming to do this, and they rarely work when you need them most. That’s because each only works on one type of emotion, which probably isn’t the one you’re targeting!

Emotions are simpler than we think they are, but they work differently. Ignoring them makes things worse, and so does dwelling on them. And yes, how you relate to your emotions determines whether you’ll ever enjoy your life and reach your goals. Success at work. The quality of your relationships. How well your kids do in life. You know – everything important.

And one final thing: I don’t expect you to take my word about any of this. In fact, I don’t expect you to ever take my word – about anything. Test out what I tell you in your own life and see if it works. It’s worked with everyone I’ve ever met, but if you’re different that’s OK. I’d love to meet you so the next ADEPT process will work with everyone I’ve ever met, including you.

If everything you’ve read so far sounds too complex, let me add one important final thought here:

I cracked the code. You don’t have to. I can show you what to do and even help you do it.

How ADEPT Psychology Differs From Both Therapy & Mindset Coaching

Because my goal is to look after your interests but I consider your concerns normal, I strive to balance the ethical codes that psychologists and therapists follow with the common sense of mindset coaches.

You aren’t as damaged as the folks who wrote the ethical codes for psychologists and therapists believe that therapy clients must be. (I wonder if that’s part of why people in therapy often complain about the stigma of being in therapy. Just saying…)

What you need is specialized help that neither therapists nor mindset coaches are trained to provide.

Here’s where the therapists’ ethical codes make sense:

1. I see you not as a number or a paying customer, but as a valued client. That’s true whether you ever buy anything from me or not.

2. Mutual trust is important to our relationship. I’ll do everything I can to maintain and strengthen it, including telling you whenever I don’t think I can help you.

3. I’m going to do everything I can to make our experience together as productive and helpful for you as possible. I’ll always strive to bring my “A” game and give you the best possible advice and personal service.

4. Your private business is your business. I’m not spreading it around. That includes, but isn’t restricted to, giving or selling your name or email address to other people.

5. You can spread your private business wherever and however you please. That includes telling others about our working relationship.

6. In a group, disclosing other members’ private business is a strict no-no, subject to group discipline.

Here’s where the ethics codes don’t make sense in this situation, so I don’t follow them:

1. I’m not so powerful (and you’re not so fragile) that you need to be protected from me. I see myself as a friendly and helpful advisor, not as either a savior or adversary.

2. Your ability to get my help shouldn’t depend on a line someone drew on a map during a previous century. If you have access to the internet and want my help, I can help you. I’ve had clients from around the globe.

3. In business, it’s common to receive fees from other businesses for making referrals. In therapy, it’s strictly forbidden. I believe that ought to be your decision. I won’t refer you to anything unless I think it’ll help you. If I make a referral, I’ll fully disclose any benefit I would receive, and also your options to obtain the same services without benefiting me. Whatever you decide won’t affect our relationship, either way. You have to do what’s best for you.

4. Therapists frown on complicated relationships. For instance, providing someone therapy and doing business with them later is considered a serious ethical problem. While I’m not actively shopping for business partners, I’m not going to reject mutual opportunities now because I helped you in the past, either. This should be a decision we make together, based on whether it makes sense for both of us. We’ll both be fine, either way. I’m not into persuading people to do what they don’t want to do. Actually, I’m more likely to tell them all the possible pitfalls I see before they do what they already want to do.

5. Even if you’ve received therapy in the past, that doesn’t mean you’re too disturbed for ADEPT Psychology. As I said earlier, most therapists are well-meaning but aren’t trained to address these problems. I’ve found that past therapy clients take longer to recover, not because they’re more disturbed than anybody else, but because they have more bad habits to unlearn that they’ve picked up from well-meaning therapists.

Your Next Step

If you now believe you might benefit from ADEPT Psychology, even if you aren’t sure, join the email list. If you haven’t already joined it, a form should appear when you try to leave this page. Provide your first name and email address, then click the link on the followup email to make sure you’re added to the list. That confirmation helps us make sure a real person signed up and they really want to hear from ADEPT Psychology.

That’s about the last obligation you’ll ever have. I’ll do my best to educate you via email about how the transformation process works. There may also be occasional training webinars for list members only. If that’s all you ever want from ADEPT Psychology, you’ll never pay anything.

Of course, you could refuse to join the list. What’s that costing you, besides your time, emotional pain, and thousands of dollars in lost revenue? Or maybe you could figure this system out on you own. It’s only taken me 30+ years – how hard could it be?

This is a no-brainer. You’re risking nothing and gaining your freedom. Sign up now!

From time to time, I’ll offer those who’ve been on the list awhile opportunities to enroll in a course or transformational group program. The courses are designed to be less expensive alternatives for those who want to do it all themselves. The group programs will include my direct support and intervention.

Because transformational programs require my direct involvement and expertise, they will never be discounted.

If you’re ever interested in a private consultation, visit the Contact page and drop me an email. Warning: As far as I know, I’m the only person in the world doing what I do, the way I do it, getting the results I get. My skills are unique, and are thus highly valued.

However, all of that’s way off in the future. I’m never going to pressure you to buy anything from me. I may even try to talk you out of it. If and when enough people tell me they’re ready for a group program, an opportunity will occur. There’s no predicting when or how often that will happen.

Until then, sign up for the list and make use of the free educational content you’ll start receiving. You’ll learn everything it’s taken me over 30 years to understand, including how to apply it to your own life.

And aren’t you ready to step out of your pain and live a better life?